I’ve seen marriages that succeed, and I’ve seen marriages that fail (more of the latter, of course). After much observation and plenty of introspection, I’ve decided that marriage isn’t for everyone. Hell, monogamy, isn’t for everyone… But that’s another subject.
We’re all taught to think that you grow up, you get a job, you get married, have some kids, and that’s it. But why do we think that, when we can look around us and see that isn’t reality? You say, “Well, it’s our generation,” but that isn’t true, either. Those marriages of the past that we all LOVE to reference as successful, most of them only held together because women had no rights and no options. Those women were bound to their husbands as property, and property can’t leave its proprietor. Both slaves and wives had to take their masters’ names: because they were property.
We’re all taught that marriage is THE option, and not AN option. This is especially true for women. For men, marriage is just something you do when you’re done having fun and “all grown up.” For women, marriage is an aspiration. It’s the pinnacle of our being, it’s our validation. The way men aspire to be successful in their professional lives, women aspire to marriage. We compete, and we base our worth on our desirability. It’s rather sad, really. If you need examples, look at any “girl movie/chic flick,” any girly-girl Disney or Disney-esque film, or ANYTHING where women or girls are the target demographic.
And now, I’m going to go play Skyrim as I pine for Dragon Age: Inquisition and Destiny to be released.